Hey Mama Bears! We know January is full of all the health resolutions and sometimes it feels heavy, instead of simple and sustainable. So, we wanted to sit down with one of our fave mamas Maggie Glover, Owner of Glover Fitness, to pick her brain on the subject! Her heart beats for community and helping women, and she knows first hand how hard it can be to make healthy choices. However, she has lived the fruit of making health a priority as a mom, and she believes it is your best mom move yet. So lean in and learn from our dear friend's story.
XOXO-Erin, Kidsclub Owner
What I would rather do, is tell you about how I learned first-hand exactly how vital good health is as a mother. -Maggie Glover
When asked to write a blog on the topic of health and motherhood, a barrage of cliché sayings and tips come to mind. I could definitely write those things, because I believe most of them and frequently employ them. But it would be nothing but white noise to tell you one more time you cannot pour from an empty cup, “Go exercise!”. What I would rather do, is tell you about how I learned first-hand exactly how vital good health is as a mother.
When I was nine months pregnant with my first child (Sophie, now 3), I actually believed that I was going to handle motherhood with ease. I can already hear you snickering. I really thought women exaggerated the depth of sleep depravity and fatigue that they couldn’t even remember the day of the week.
So, let’s fast forward to two weeks in to having my newborn. She wasn’t sleeping longer than 45 minutes at a time (dairy allergy we were unaware of at the time), and I don’t think I knew the year we were in, much less the weekday. I was doing almost nothing for myself, because that’s what good mothers do, right? Cue the eye roll. I didn’t see the perfect storm brewing. It had all the ingredients for a major breakdown:
I was doing almost nothing for myself, because that’s what good mothers do, right? Cue the eye roll. I didn’t see the perfect storm brewing. It had all the ingredients for a major breakdown….
Hardly sleeping: check.
Hardly eating: check.
Not asking for help: check.
Showering: that’s funny.
How long can a person survive under the delusion that they can ignore all their needs and be fine? Three weeks. At three weeks, I hit my breaking point and finally admitted that I needed help. My family took me on a walk, and I saw the sunshine. I can still feel how glorious it was to let go of the stroller (there’s a deep metaphor somewhere in there), give it to my mother, and start running. It was a turning point for me. I was fulfilling a need of my own.
I believe God let me get to my breaking point because I insisted on doing things my way. When I finally leaned on the people he had given me, things got better. I joined a small group of mothers for a Bible study. I got back into the gym. I finally began to feel like me. It took a few months before I felt entirely like myself, but I got back.
So, here’s the part where I tell you all the things you’ve heard before. But now you know I’m not regurgitating tips from the woman who tells you to wash your face. Here’s what I do to make sure I really am the best mother I can be:
Pray. Don’t know the Lord? I’d love to tell you all about Him and how nothing would matter without him. He gives my life purpose. He keeps me from thinking too much of myself or too little of myself.
Exercise. Please, go sweat. It’s cleansing for the soul. It recharges your mind. It makes you happy. And “happy people just don’t kill their husbands”, right?
Eat well. Best advice; eat all the colors. Not skittles people.
Invest in relationships. You need people in your life. Jesus had 12 close friends, so you probably should too. Preferably, some who are mothers so you’ll know you’re totally normal (or close to it).
Don’t take yourself too seriously. Seriously. Learn to laugh at yourself. Even when you flood the house trying to thaw chicken in the bathtub because the sink was full of dishes.
So, what did I learn from those first few weeks as a new mother? I have to make my needs a priority. You should too. It’s non-negotiable. My child needs me at my best. I am modeling self-respect and good habits for her. She already knows what a squat and downward-dog is. I’d say I’m killing it in that area. Just don’t ask me about my cooking. :)
-Maggie Glover, Mama to Sophie and sweet baby Glover on the way
So, what did I learn from those first few weeks as a new mother? I have to make my needs a priority. You should too. It’s non-negotiable. My child needs me at my best. I am modeling self-respect and good habits for her.